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Parents Stuck in "Old Ways" of Thinking
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11 years 4 months ago #801
by EarthenForm
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I was born and brought up in a forest in Canada, on a beautiful lake. Ever since I was a child, I have been amazed by the wonder of life. I remember stargazing at the age of 5, being completely flabbergasted that "space never ends", and that "even though I don't have to exist, i do exist, and that must be a divine gift". My life has been too full of triple numbers and *perfectly* timed events, for them to just be labelled as "coincidences", and with all 5 senses in my dreams (of which are lucid every single night), life just continues to astound me (I am currently in my late 20s). I have boundless gratitude for the abundance that life has provided me with.
However, I cannot say the same for *my parents*. They appear to be eternally stuck in old ways (lower dimensional ways) of thinking. They are full of fear, worry, and selfishness [their lives are ran entirely by their ego-selves]. Even the odd time when they admit that "something's up", they refuse to get help, and their moods manifest as laziness, or the opposite side of the spectrum -- OCD about the most random stuff.
Despite multiple attempts at offering to share my light with them, they refuse. I don't believe in the pushy spiritual approach either -- it is important that we respect each person's own unique spirits/energy fields. However, it is blatantly obvious that they feel sad and unfulfilled. I've always been confused by people who are *completely aware* that they are not in a physical/emotional/mental/spiritual place of wellness, but who do not have the desire to help themselves (or seek others who can help them).
Do you have parents like this? What is your opinion on this matter? I feel entire previous generations are stuck "in the box", and even though eternal bliss is right in front of their nose, it's like they can't sense it. They don't seek their passions, but just daydream out loud about how "oh...it must be nice". I don't want to give up on my parents, because I love them dearly. How do I help steer them in the right direction OR should I just accept reality for what it is (note: the latter is a very painful decision)? What have you done? How do I show them that we are the creators of our own reality?
However, I cannot say the same for *my parents*. They appear to be eternally stuck in old ways (lower dimensional ways) of thinking. They are full of fear, worry, and selfishness [their lives are ran entirely by their ego-selves]. Even the odd time when they admit that "something's up", they refuse to get help, and their moods manifest as laziness, or the opposite side of the spectrum -- OCD about the most random stuff.
Despite multiple attempts at offering to share my light with them, they refuse. I don't believe in the pushy spiritual approach either -- it is important that we respect each person's own unique spirits/energy fields. However, it is blatantly obvious that they feel sad and unfulfilled. I've always been confused by people who are *completely aware* that they are not in a physical/emotional/mental/spiritual place of wellness, but who do not have the desire to help themselves (or seek others who can help them).
Do you have parents like this? What is your opinion on this matter? I feel entire previous generations are stuck "in the box", and even though eternal bliss is right in front of their nose, it's like they can't sense it. They don't seek their passions, but just daydream out loud about how "oh...it must be nice". I don't want to give up on my parents, because I love them dearly. How do I help steer them in the right direction OR should I just accept reality for what it is (note: the latter is a very painful decision)? What have you done? How do I show them that we are the creators of our own reality?
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11 years 4 months ago #802
by soffty
Replied by soffty on topic Re: Parents Stuck in "Old Ways" of Thinking
People that are set in their ways are extremely common. In my experiences, you have to lower your expectations and consider any goals relating to helping them long term.
Setting an example through actions will accomplish a bit, and maybe one day it will open up a door to opportunity. But I suspect that door will open when they come to you, not the other way around.
Just my opinions. You are on a path that is not lit by them. They will not cease to exist in this lifetime, and your chance may come later.
Look inward and grow inside. Learn and discover. Seek truth. Challenge yourself, and as you enjoy the company of your parents, think of them as your gift. It could be that they are here to show you who you really are.
Seek truth. Discover faith. Forgive yourself. Love another at total cost with no reward.
Wade
Setting an example through actions will accomplish a bit, and maybe one day it will open up a door to opportunity. But I suspect that door will open when they come to you, not the other way around.
Just my opinions. You are on a path that is not lit by them. They will not cease to exist in this lifetime, and your chance may come later.
Look inward and grow inside. Learn and discover. Seek truth. Challenge yourself, and as you enjoy the company of your parents, think of them as your gift. It could be that they are here to show you who you really are.
Seek truth. Discover faith. Forgive yourself. Love another at total cost with no reward.
Wade
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11 years 4 months ago #803
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Good way of looking at it actually, thanks for sharing your opinion! I was watching a youtube video by a monk yesterday, and he said "we should be grateful for those who are difficult in our lives -- they are our greatest teachers".
I guess it's just hard to watch those you love the most, remain stricken with sadness, when happiness/love/light is almost effortless for me to achieve. I believe we choose our realities, so if there is an option between love/compassion/respect/truth/light, over darkness/fear/greed/selfishness/worry, it makes no logical sense to choose the latter.
Because my parents are ruled by their ego-selves, they are only satisfied by external validation. The concept of loving themselves wholy, and basing their life off internal validation and divine oneness (the abundance of love that we find in the place of Shambhala within ourselves), is like trying to introduce them to another language. They look at me like I'm insane. I have so much compassion for them. I can't imagine what it must be like to live inside the box like that....and to imagine that most of the world is in that state of mind... Lets hope humanity is capable of freeing themselves soon. They deserve it. Our inner selves are so deserving of light
I guess it's just hard to watch those you love the most, remain stricken with sadness, when happiness/love/light is almost effortless for me to achieve. I believe we choose our realities, so if there is an option between love/compassion/respect/truth/light, over darkness/fear/greed/selfishness/worry, it makes no logical sense to choose the latter.
Because my parents are ruled by their ego-selves, they are only satisfied by external validation. The concept of loving themselves wholy, and basing their life off internal validation and divine oneness (the abundance of love that we find in the place of Shambhala within ourselves), is like trying to introduce them to another language. They look at me like I'm insane. I have so much compassion for them. I can't imagine what it must be like to live inside the box like that....and to imagine that most of the world is in that state of mind... Lets hope humanity is capable of freeing themselves soon. They deserve it. Our inner selves are so deserving of light

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11 years 4 months ago #805
by soffty
Replied by soffty on topic Re: Parents Stuck in "Old Ways" of Thinking
Remember, those of us who are not consumed by ego are the minority. You have realized many truths somewhat prematurely, in your life. It is a bit of a burden. Maybe a form of suffering. I had a similar situation and I was angry. Had I learned what you know when I was young I would have become a different person...dunno if that is better or not.
A lesson...maybe to help you plan for an even tougher lesson in the future.
Wade
A lesson...maybe to help you plan for an even tougher lesson in the future.
Wade
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11 years 4 months ago #811
by sammyzeus
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Okay, so, i'm new here and i may be able to explain a few things from the best point of view i can give. Now, that way you're saying these things it seems like you're coming from a "new aged" point of view. Let me explain first, that you, nor anyone in this world knows everything, and never will. In fact, you, or your parents never have, or will. So, therefore, from this down to earth perspective. We can see that, your parents may be making the right decisions in their eyes. They are not forced to believe anything new aged. I personally tried it, but i didn't like it. I preferred to stay in the ways that have worked for thousands of years. Not move on to something that's so prematurely developed, as new aged "knowledge" is. Though you may be completely right in every way. Nothing against you, or your belief system. I'm just telling you from a neutral standpoint
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11 years 4 months ago #856
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As I stated in my original post, I was born and brought up in the middle of nowhere, Canada. I have been involved in spirituality since I was a child, and hadn't been exposed to "new age" stuff until my mid 20s, so my beliefs are based on personal {unexplained} spiritual experiences, ancient knowledge/traditions/rituals, sacred geometry, etc. I don't claim to be an all knowing sage or Shaman, by any means ~ After all, how can we truly trust our beliefs, if they are formed by the mind, which is nothing more than a projection? No worries, I do not take offense. I was just curious as to what other people thought on the subject of "old ways" of thinking. I have no problem with "old ways" (to each their own, right?), but if it doesn't serve people well, than why do they hold on them? Evolution is change. Our spirits came here to evolve. Change is good. Just sayin'.
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