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A True Story of Forgiveness

10 years 6 months ago - 10 years 6 months ago #834 by SubsidingInsanity

Sue Norton lives in Arkansas City, Kansas. She received terrible news during a phone call from her brother in January 1990. Her much beloved, Daddy, Richard Denny and his wife Virginia were found murdered in their home. Sue’s Daddy was shot to death in his isolated Oklahoma farmhouse. The crime netted the killer $17.00 and an old truck.

Sue says she felt "numb". She couldn’t understand why someone would want to hurt people who were old and poor.

The loss of her Daddy just broke her heart.

Sue sat through the trial of Robert Knighton (B.K.). She was confused about how she should feel. She tells me that everyone in the courtroom was consumed with hate. They all expected her to feel the same way. But she couldn’t hate the way they did because she says, "it didn’t feel good."

The last night of the trial she knew there must be another way. She couldn’t eat or sleep that night and prayed to God to help her. When morning came, she had this thought. "Sue, you don’t have to hate B.K., you could forgive him".

The next day, while the jury was out for deliberation, Sue got permission to visit B.K. through the bars of his holding cell. Sue relates, "I was really frightened. This was my first experience in a jail. B.K. was big and tall, he was shackled and had cold steely eyes." At first B.K. refused to look at Sue. She asked him to turn around and he answered, "why would any one want to talk to me after what I have done?" Sue replied, "I don’t know what to say to you. But I want you to know that I don’t hate you. My grandmother always taught me not to use the word hate. She taught me that we are here to love one another. If you are guilty, I forgive you.

B.K. thought Sue was just playing games. He couldn’t understand how she could forgive him for such a terrible crime. Sue says, "I didn’t think of him as killer, I thought of him as a human being.

People thought that Sue had lost her mind. Friends would step to the other side of the road to avoid her. But Sue says, "There is no way to heal and get over the trauma without forgiveness. You must forgive and forget and get on with your life. That is what Jesus would do.

B.K. resides on death row in Oklahoma. Sue often writes to him and visits occasionally. She feels that B.K. should never leave prison, but she does not want him executed. She has become friends with B.K. and because of her love and friendship he has become a devout Christian.

Sue states that some good has come out of her Daddy’s death.

"I have been able to witness to many people about Jesus and forgiveness and helped others to heal. I have brought B.K. and many other men on death row to our Lord Jesus Christ. I live in peace with my Lord!"

Sue Norton is a member of Murder Victims Families for Reconciliation and the Kansas Coalition to Abolish the Death Penalty. Sue has traveled extensively to speak to schools, churches and community groups about forgiveness and Christianity.

Sue gave an eloquent speech to the parole board pleading to save B.K.'s life. Many of the parole board members were in tears but voted for death. B.K. was executed by the state of Oklahoma on May 27, 2003. Bud Welch from Oklahoma City and Aba Gayle from Oregon were both there to support BK and Sue with their loving energy.

I find it amazing that people who have never heard of ACIM are able to forgive the very worst sorts of offenses. Before becoming a student of the course I basically never forgave anybody. Even after all this time it would be difficult given that situation. People like Sue Norton are an inspiration. What a world we would have if we had more like her. Feel free to share any of your own forgiveness stories.

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10 years 6 months ago - 10 years 6 months ago #835 by xcerca7
Replied by xcerca7 on topic Re: A True Story of Forgiveness
This is great.

And it really does feel better to forgive, than to hate. I think many people "hate" this, or that, because there is social pressure to do so. It seems that hate clouds judgement, and there is a perception that - if you don't hate something that is "bad", then you are sympathetic, and actually support the behavior/whatever. But this really isn't true, I think we are all here to love, and love is a great lesson to learn.

When you forgive, you love - when you love, you are loved :)

I think that having the love of a death row inmate is just as equal to having the love of a "decent" person.
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10 years 6 months ago #837 by SubsidingInsanity
I completely agree with everything you said. I've found that people tend to equate forgiveness with charity. They see it as they are giving another something they do not deserve. What they miss is that forgiving the offender relieves them of their own suffering. When more people catch on that forgiveness is a wonderful self healing technique it will probably become more popular.

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